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                                 BONDING RITUAL
                                 
                                       By
                                   Lewis Moody



     Note: This is NOT a caging ritual because both participants must
be voluntary. it is impossible for this to work unless both persons
are willing.


     1. Sit in a comfortable position in front of a table with your
elbows resting on the table top and your palms up.

     2. Have the person to be bonded with you sit on the other side of
the table. have him rest his arm on yours in a comfortable position.

    * You must BOTH be completely relaxed and at ease. If either of
you is tense or nervous this will not work.

     3. Speak,"Now I want you to close your eyes and inhale deeply."
Pause for a moment. "Now slowly exhale and release all the tension in
your body."

   * Must be done by BOTH. 3 repetions total is recommended but go
with your feelings. A simple phrase such as "again" will suffice for
the 2nd and 3rd runs.

     4. Speak,"Now open your eyes and look into mine." (Do a "reading"
of the bondee using whatever technique is familar with you.)

   * This is the most difficult part of the entire ritual. All of us
have natural shields. Trust is a 2 way street. You must CONSCIOUSLY
lower your own shields BEFORE you can expect them to do the same for
you.

     5. Speak, "We are 2 souls, 2 minds, travelling down life's
road. It has come to us to be closer than most. Allow me to travel
with you as I allow you to travel with me. Mind, body, soul, all are
as one. We are 2 souls destined to act as one. Travel with me be my
guide as I shall be yours. Let us not be two but one reflection of
another one mind, two souls, moving closer, ever closer never to part,
We are 2 acting as one. Allow your natural shields to lower as I allow
mine to go down for you. etc...

   * The words here are not the important thing you will find as you
get into the "spirit" of this ritual that it will NEVER be exactly the
same twice.

   * It is unfortunate but true that the only way a TRUE bonding will
hold is if BOTH of the parties literally FORCE their way through the
others shields.  This may seem unethical, maybe even unmoral to some,
but remember this ritual CANNOT be used on any but the most willing.

     6. When you have gone as far as you feel is safe/productive there
need to be a definite ending. The age old words "SO MOTE IT BE" I have
found effective. However feel free to use your own. Once again it's
not the words that matter but the technique.